Journey Of Love »-(¯`v´¯)-» From Friends to Lovers

Journey Of Love »-(¯`v´¯)-» From Friends to Lovers «-(¯`v´¯)-«

Have you ever sensed an awkward understanding between two people who are confused and wondering if they’re friends or lovers?


You may be one of those who feel that way about a friend.


So what do you do, take the plunge or brush the thought away? It all depends on what you want out of the relationship.



If you have ever taken the time to notice, and grope around a bit, you’d be able to see that there’s a distinct line separating the bonds of friendship and love. If you haven’t figured it out yet, look around. Haven’t you ever noticed two friends of yours who seem to be in love, but somehow are still friends? Or have you ever had a mild crush on a friend? Remember how weird it felt each time you hug them or held hands while crossing a street? Well, it’s embarrassingly stupid, isn’t it? You know the both of you should be in love, but yet, there’s that bond of friendship that seems to be holding you back. So what do you do about it? Do you just hold your fluttering heart in your hands until it regains its composure or do you fling it out towards that friend and hope they’d catch it? Let’s admit it. Would you catch a bleeding heart that’s thrown right at you when you least expect it? Perhaps not. So what do you do when you’re friends, but really have to be lovers?

Falling in love with a friend is like a little dance under the spotlight, especially when you don’t really know how to dance. You jiggle your feet awkwardly with your dance mate, and hope that the audience would never figure that you have two left feet. To your surprise, it wouldn’t take the audience long to figure your secret out. The same goes with awkward friendships. Haven’t we all noticed how easy it is for people to realize that there is something weird going on? Haven’t you ever been teased with someone, at the very first instance when you blushed or stared a wee bit longer at a ‘friend’?

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So who do you want to be

A friend or a lover? Of course, you want to be a lover, don’t you? You… you naughty little bunny! Hey, I’d do the same if I were you, pal. So stop with the ‘I-am-not-such-a-perv’ class act. Listen wanting to go out is sweet, getting physical and cuddly is sweeter, but there are a few things you need to know before you take the icy plunge. First of all, ask yourself if your friend’s love is truly what you need. Do you get jealous when they hook up with someone else, or do you want to go out with them each time they run back to you crying, after another break-up?

Going from friends to lovers is a big transition, and it really depends on a lot of other circumstances too. And it’s tricky business. And most importantly, you need to remember that a lover and a friend are two different people, even if it’s the same person. The author narrates ...... I remember one time when I hooked up with a friend a few years ago. He was what I had always wanted, sweet, charming and full of wit and humor. But once we did start going out, I saw that he was quite egoistic and stubborn, just like me. We used to argue a lot, and eventually, eight months after hooking up, we ended the relationship. It was a bad way to end something that had lasted six years. We used to like each other a lot when we were friends, but falling in love with each other asked for a lot more than just fun times in the open. And the most important thing that both of us overlooked in love was compromising for each other.